Handshaking our Beautiful Monsters

Handshaking our Beautiful Monsters

Handshaking our Beautiful Monsters

I read an article by Tsoknyi Rinpoche on How to Make Friends with our Beautiful Monsters.

I had a feeling to share that experience. I found it aligned with what I offer through my yoga teaching and FRY. 

I emphasize the relationship we need to have with the movement and the feelings that come from it.

Handshaking our Beautiful Monsters. Who are they?

Anger, fear, envy. You name it. Those are all feelings we experience in our life. Instead of fighting them make friends with them.

You want to better your life. So, you might decide to read some self-help books written by well-known authors. Some of you had the fortune to talk to some mentors. And it seems you get it up in your head. It seems you have a clearer vision of your life experiences. Yet, you are still stuck in the same emotional and energetic habit patterns.

That happens because there is no communication between mind, body, and feelings. Your understanding is not digested at the level of body and feeling. It is at the level of the intellectual mind. It is not deeply integrated.

We often feel ashamed of our emotional patterns. Those emotions make our lives and relationships difficult.

We resist and react to what we feel.

We hate what we feel.

We just want all our feelings to go away.

Practicing handshaking with our Beautiful Monsters

As suggested by Tsonknyi Rinpoche, we need to learn to look at them as “Beautiful Monsters”. If we think of them as just “Monsters”, we solidify our aversion toward them. If we think of them as just “Beautiful”, we are denying the destructive potential they have and the suffering they can cause.

It’s important to understand that they are both friends and enemies. It is like looking at your hand: it has two sides; it exists with two sides. You cannot consider the functionality of your hands by only considering one side. The bottom side of the hand exists because its top side exists.

Rinpoche describes our “Beautiful Monsters” like ice. Their nature is water. We don’t have to destroy the ice but melt it  and free it and let it flow. Our “Beautiful Monsters” are like that. They are frozen patterns of reacting and resisting. To melt the ice and so our “friendly enemies”, we need to use the warmth of our kindness toward them, without any judgmental mind.

We have to learn to have a “handshake attitude” between our awareness and our feelings. Not running away from our feeling. Not fighting them. Just meeting them in full awareness.

Remind yourself to “allow the chin to dip down a little bit” when you feel defeated.

The old Taoist text “Tao Te Ching” talks about being the Valley of the Universe. It says: Know honour, yet keep humility! Be the valley of the universe! You don’t always have to strive to be the mountain, the highest point, the biggest thing around. Feel the power of what Gandhi described as “coming back to zero”: that selfless space where what becomes zero is the ego or the identity. And you begin to access that place beyond time, place and space. Going beyond every label that we’ve ever been given. Our name, our gender, our ethnicity, our nationality, job occupation.

All these labels are not the things that really define Who You Are.

Who you truly are is boundless, infinite, eternal, and incredibly sacred. And ego stands for Edging Goodness Out!

Sasy

Benefits of yoga and meditation. Walking your Talking.

Benefits of yoga and meditation. Walking your Talking.

I have been reading the study published by the National Library of Medicine at this link, on the benefits of Yoga, Meditation, and Mind-Body Health in increasing BDNF, Cortisol Awakening Response, and Altering Inflammatory Marker Expression.

What I found interesting is that science is backing up what sages of the past have told us in many different ways. The benefits of meditation and mindfulness have been the base of Buddha’s teachings. Those teachings are basked on the importance of love and compassion. Many texts of the past have described the benefits of yoga postures and pranayama, what we mistakenly call breathwork. While I feel there is a bit more awareness regarding these topics, still today I feel there is Extraverted Sensing towards science. The ES is leading to being focused on the outside, the information. We all talk about the benefits of the yoga practice. Yea, we all know everything and even more about everything. Yea, we follow so-called influencers on socials. But what is it that is missing here? A real hands-on practice. That is when everything becomes more difficult. We know but we do not do. We talk but we do not walk our talk. I learned, in my humble 19-year of experience, that there is no better science than the awareness regarding what makes you feel good and healthy. And I am not talking about doing what you like and avoiding what you dislike. I am talking about the awareness of what you need to do to be better physically, emotionally, mentally, and energetically. Challenge yourself. Everyday. And then you can back up your discovery with your own experience. That is the best science ever.

Yoga & Weight Training

Yoga & Weight Training

Yoga & Weight Training

Practicing Yoga & Weight Training is like having your PB & Jam Toast: you benefit from muscle building, but you also get muscle endurance, balance, and flexibility.

The impact of “eating your PB & Jam Toast” is understandable: if you only lift weights, you only benefit from strength building at the expense of flexibility.

Why adding yoga is beneficial

Adding functional yoga movements to your weight-lifting routine allows you to maintain dexterity, muscle endurance, and flexibility. Slow and constant pace, holding the posture for an extended time to tense muscles, apply contraction and compression between the tissue is what your body needs to be healthy.

On top of that, the emphasis on breathing we put during our class allows you to get rid of the practice of holding your breath. That occurs when your body and mind are under tension and pressure. This is a bad pattern and can easily become a habit that can be eliminated with breathing exercises which is one of the big components of the yoga practice.

By becoming aware of your breathing and oxygenating your body more you can benefit more from the muscle-building workout.

By adding functional Yoga movement to your wellness routine, you can improve your range of motion and encourage better posture and you’ll be far less likely to get injured by weight lifting. A better range of motion equals a safer weight lift.

Stress Management

Are you looking for Stress Management activities? Yoga and meditation are major stress relievers, which promote better emotional health. Strength training can help to control anger and aggression with explosive movements. That, combined with Yoga and meditation, can help you to end that feeling of being in control and become more relaxed.

There is no absolute: keep lifting but add functional Yoga movements and meditation for your mental and body wellness.

When I cofounded FRY is here to help you to manage your strength practice, stretch your muscles and tissue, add breathwork to your schedule, and learn how to meditate, how to relax, and how to use positive affirmation to better your life.

You are not alone!

FRY is your 24/7 Buddy Support System

Check out www.FRYCanada.com for more contents and details.

Our Beautiful Monsters

Our Beautiful Monsters

I was reading an article by Tsoknyi Rinpoche on How to Make Friends with our Beautiful Monsters. I had a feeling to share that experience. I found it aligned with what we offer at FRY when we talk about the relationship with need to have with the movement and the feelings that come from it.

Anger, fear, envy. You name it. Those are all feelings we experience in our life. Instead of fighting them make friends with them.

To better your life you might decide to read some self-help books written by well-known authors. Some of you had the fortune to talk to some mentors. And it seems you get it up in your head. It seems you have a clearer vision of your life experiences. Yet, you are still stuck in the same emotional and energetic habit patterns. That happens because there is no communication between mind, body, and feelings. Your understanding is not digested at the level of body and feeling. It is at the level of the intellectual mind. It is not deeply integrated.

We often feel ashamed of our emotional patterns that make our lives and relationships difficult. We resist and react to what we feel. We hate what we feel. We just want all our feelings to go away.

As suggested by Tsonknyi Rinpoche, we need to learn to look at them as “Beautiful Monsters”. If we think of them as just “Monsters”, we solidify our aversion toward them, which are really just parts of our own minds. If we think of them as just “Beautiful”, however, we are denying the destructive potential they have and the suffering they can cause.

It’s important to understand that they are both friends and enemies. It is like looking at your hand: it has two sides; it exists with two sides. You cannot consider the functionality of your hands by only considering one side. The bottom side of the hand exists because its top side exists.

Our “Beautiful Monsters” are like ice. Their nature is water. We don’t have to destroy the ice but melt it and free it and let it flow. Our “Beautiful Monsters” are like that. They are frozen patterns of reacting and resisting. To melt the ice and so our “friendly enemies”, we need to use the warmth of our kindness toward them, without any judgmental mind. Having a “handshake attitude” between our awareness and our feelings. Not running away from our feeling. Not fighting them. Just meeting them in full awareness.

Sasy

FRY ROAD TRIP ACROSS CANADA – WILL WE SEE YOU?

FRY ROAD TRIP ACROSS CANADA – WILL WE SEE YOU?

FRY ROAD TRIP ACROSS CANADA – WILL WE SEE YOU?

I am happy to announce that FRY Creators CEO Julia Long & Director Sasy Cacace are leading 5-hour FRY The Method workshops & classes ACROSS CANADA to the west starting on June 4, 2022.  

FRY will be hosted in:

  • Sudbury at “A Space to Breathe Inc”,
  • Sault Ste Marie at “Peaceful Warrior Wellness Studio” and
  • Calgary at Balance Mobile Body Inc. (FLOWTION)

There are still some slots open if you would like to host a session for your Department. Contact us for more details and to BOOK. 519-770-YOGA(9642) or email: info@FRYCanada.com.

Cities with a few spots/dates available:

  • WINNIPEG MB June 15th
  • REGINA SK June 18th
  • CALGARY AB June 21st
  • EDMONTON AB June 23rd
  • FORT McMURRAY AB June 25th
  • JASPER/BANFF AREA June 27th, 29th
  • VANCOUVER BC July 5th

Workshop Learning objectives:  

  • Learn how to manage mental health, injury-prevention, stress and build resilience in active, high trauma jobs;
  • Understand the science behind and impact of breathwork, functional movement (energetic yang and deep tissue stretching yin), relaxation techniques, positive affirmations and meditation on mind-body wellbeing; and
  • Experience the effect of a FRY The Method class on the nervous system, the physical body and overall wellbeing.

I would love to see you, First Responders, in person.

Sasy

The cocoon of our habitual patterns

The cocoon of our habitual patterns

One of the most effective tools we have for working with our habitual tendencies is practicing the pause, creating space between the stimuli and the reaction. In that space there is our power to reduce our emotional response. In that space lie our freedom.

I find it difficult sometime especially when I have to manage situations that root in my childhood. But I am completely aware of that.

Stay in your comfort zone, using a limited set of behaviors to deliver a level of performance that is not risky and requires no mental or emotional stress has its own pleasure. I know it and sometimes I miss what I left behind me. But I always ask to myself if I am keep poking my head out of the cocoons of my habitual patterns long enough to feel the awakened mind and energy that exist around me. Yes, because that awakening state exists in the nature, in the animals in every form of manifested energy. Feeling the wholeness around you is what can help.

If you drop your conceptual mind just a few breaths, if you pause just long enough, you can reconnect with that deep wisdom that is inside ourself.

The problem is that we think we are an unchanging entity. But we are not. We are ever-changing and growing beings, just like the caterpillar changing to a butterfly, we also grow and change over the course of our lifetimes.

We may imagine ourselves as a steady and permanent being, but this is not true, we change just as frequently as the seasons come and go.

Create a gap is the deal. No matter what you are doing take some conscious deep breaths and pause. Let it be and put your full attention on the immediacy of your experience. This allows you to understand your true nature.

Stay in the pause. It doesn’t matter whether you are practicing meditation or working. The pause allows you to poke your nose out of the cocoon of your habitual patterns and instead of being focused on the details you can see the whole picture of your life and feel the connection with all that is surrounding you.

And today I am pausing a lot.

Sasy