Our Beautiful Monsters

Our Beautiful Monsters

I was reading an article by Tsoknyi Rinpoche on How to Make Friends with our Beautiful Monsters. I had a feeling to share that experience. I found it aligned with what we offer at FRY when we talk about the relationship with need to have with the movement and the feelings that come from it.

Anger, fear, envy. You name it. Those are all feelings we experience in our life. Instead of fighting them make friends with them.

To better your life you might decide to read some self-help books written by well-known authors. Some of you had the fortune to talk to some mentors. And it seems you get it up in your head. It seems you have a clearer vision of your life experiences. Yet, you are still stuck in the same emotional and energetic habit patterns. That happens because there is no communication between mind, body, and feelings. Your understanding is not digested at the level of body and feeling. It is at the level of the intellectual mind. It is not deeply integrated.

We often feel ashamed of our emotional patterns that make our lives and relationships difficult. We resist and react to what we feel. We hate what we feel. We just want all our feelings to go away.

As suggested by Tsonknyi Rinpoche, we need to learn to look at them as “Beautiful Monsters”. If we think of them as just “Monsters”, we solidify our aversion toward them, which are really just parts of our own minds. If we think of them as just “Beautiful”, however, we are denying the destructive potential they have and the suffering they can cause.

It’s important to understand that they are both friends and enemies. It is like looking at your hand: it has two sides; it exists with two sides. You cannot consider the functionality of your hands by only considering one side. The bottom side of the hand exists because its top side exists.

Our “Beautiful Monsters” are like ice. Their nature is water. We don’t have to destroy the ice but melt it and free it and let it flow. Our “Beautiful Monsters” are like that. They are frozen patterns of reacting and resisting. To melt the ice and so our “friendly enemies”, we need to use the warmth of our kindness toward them, without any judgmental mind. Having a “handshake attitude” between our awareness and our feelings. Not running away from our feeling. Not fighting them. Just meeting them in full awareness.

Sasy

FRY ROAD TRIP ACROSS CANADA – WILL WE SEE YOU?

FRY ROAD TRIP ACROSS CANADA – WILL WE SEE YOU?

FRY ROAD TRIP ACROSS CANADA – WILL WE SEE YOU?

I am happy to announce that FRY Creators CEO Julia Long & Director Sasy Cacace are leading 5-hour FRY The Method workshops & classes ACROSS CANADA to the west starting on June 4, 2022.  

FRY will be hosted in:

  • Sudbury at “A Space to Breathe Inc”,
  • Sault Ste Marie at “Peaceful Warrior Wellness Studio” and
  • Calgary at Balance Mobile Body Inc. (FLOWTION)

There are still some slots open if you would like to host a session for your Department. Contact us for more details and to BOOK. 519-770-YOGA(9642) or email: info@FRYCanada.com.

Cities with a few spots/dates available:

  • WINNIPEG MB June 15th
  • REGINA SK June 18th
  • CALGARY AB June 21st
  • EDMONTON AB June 23rd
  • FORT McMURRAY AB June 25th
  • JASPER/BANFF AREA June 27th, 29th
  • VANCOUVER BC July 5th

Workshop Learning objectives:  

  • Learn how to manage mental health, injury-prevention, stress and build resilience in active, high trauma jobs;
  • Understand the science behind and impact of breathwork, functional movement (energetic yang and deep tissue stretching yin), relaxation techniques, positive affirmations and meditation on mind-body wellbeing; and
  • Experience the effect of a FRY The Method class on the nervous system, the physical body and overall wellbeing.

I would love to see you, First Responders, in person.

Sasy

The cocoon of our habitual patterns

The cocoon of our habitual patterns

One of the most effective tools we have for working with our habitual tendencies is practicing the pause, creating space between the stimuli and the reaction. In that space there is our power to reduce our emotional response. In that space lie our freedom.

I find it difficult sometime especially when I have to manage situations that root in my childhood. But I am completely aware of that.

Stay in your comfort zone, using a limited set of behaviors to deliver a level of performance that is not risky and requires no mental or emotional stress has its own pleasure. I know it and sometimes I miss what I left behind me. But I always ask to myself if I am keep poking my head out of the cocoons of my habitual patterns long enough to feel the awakened mind and energy that exist around me. Yes, because that awakening state exists in the nature, in the animals in every form of manifested energy. Feeling the wholeness around you is what can help.

If you drop your conceptual mind just a few breaths, if you pause just long enough, you can reconnect with that deep wisdom that is inside ourself.

The problem is that we think we are an unchanging entity. But we are not. We are ever-changing and growing beings, just like the caterpillar changing to a butterfly, we also grow and change over the course of our lifetimes.

We may imagine ourselves as a steady and permanent being, but this is not true, we change just as frequently as the seasons come and go.

Create a gap is the deal. No matter what you are doing take some conscious deep breaths and pause. Let it be and put your full attention on the immediacy of your experience. This allows you to understand your true nature.

Stay in the pause. It doesn’t matter whether you are practicing meditation or working. The pause allows you to poke your nose out of the cocoon of your habitual patterns and instead of being focused on the details you can see the whole picture of your life and feel the connection with all that is surrounding you.

And today I am pausing a lot.

Sasy

The Impact of Mindfulness Training on Police Officer’ Stress and Mental Health

The Impact of Mindfulness Training on Police Officer’ Stress and Mental Health

The Impact of Mindfulness Training on Police Officer’ Stress and Mental Health

The impact of mindfulness training on Police Officer has been scientific monitored. Stress and repeated traumatic exposure have similar effects in the brain as experiencing a traumatic event launching PTSD. They contribute to elevate rates of mental illness and suicide in policing and violent and aggressive police officer’s behaviour that impacts the community they serve.
Daily exposure to direct and vicarious trauma, organizational stressors and police-community tension contribute to elevate rates of post-traumatic stress, depression, alcoholism, and suicide in police officers. The fatigue and burnout and absence of effective emotion regulatory strategies in the law enforcement contribute to aggressive and discriminatory policing practices, leading to distrust and anger toward the police.

Prolonged activation of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis that is the precursor of the stress response, what triggers the Sympathetic Nervous System and excessive cortisol release contribute to dysregulation of the biological systems influenced by cortisol. Among other deleterious consequences, prolonged HPA axis activation lessens cortisol’s ability to suppress inflammatory responses. Elevated inflammation is consequently associated with post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, cardiovascular disease, and metabolic syndrome

Mindfulness Training to Reduce Stress and Improving First Responders’ Mental Health

Mindfulness training may reduce stress and aggression and improve Police Officers’ mental health. This  leads also to changes in biological outcomes and lasting benefits, as the study described below has shown.

A group of Doctors conducted a randomized controlled trial (RCT) of 114 Police Officers from three Midwestern U.S. law enforcement agencies. Doctors assessed stress-related physical and mental health symptoms, blood-based inflammatory markers, and hair and salivary cortisol. The study is available to read on the Frontiers in Psychology website.

The 114 police officers participated to an 8-week mindfulness intervention and the same assessments were repeated post-intervention and at 3-month follow-up. In summary, an 8-week mindfulness intervention for police officers led to improvements in distress, mental health, and sleep, and a lower cortisol awakening response. These benefits persisted at 3-month follow-up, suggesting that this training may buffer against the long-term consequences of chronic stress.

If you want to understand more about the benefits of the meditation in its wide aspect listen to Khube Rinpoche’s interview. I had the honour to interview him on behalf of F.R.Y., First Responders’ Yoga Canada.

This is one of the reasons why F.R.Y. The Method, developed with the intent to help First Responders’ mind-body health, includes the mindfulness training. It is not the movement but the relationship with it that can be a game changer. Specific mental training and meditation are part of our program available anytime, anywhere at a push of a button on F.R.Y. The APP. Download it on Google Play and Apple Store

Trust it, follow our directions for a better body-mind system, for that overall wellness you deserve.

I am trying to do my best to support you

Sasy

What is Meditation?

What is Meditation?

I had a pleasure to interview Khube Rinpoche about the benefits of meditation for First Responders. It was a very pleasure conversation and as always Rinpoche, with his loving and kind attitude, shared with me and with F.R.Y. audience his deep knowledge

You can see the teaser of the interviewee here

 

Killing the Buddha.

Killing the Buddha.

“If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him.” When I first heard that assertion, I was frowned. How can someone who is on spiritual path, on a path that should push you to have an “inner growth”, suggests to kill someone else?

I took a moment of reflection for me to understand that the speaker was not referring to killing Lord Buddha but killing our conceptualization and belief, the idea we understand it all. This was the means of “Killing the Buddha”

We all face up moments in our journey where we need to seek advice from those further along the path. But within the teacher-student relationship can arise a point at which the student can idolize the teacher and forgoes his own growth that is the purpose of all spiritual practice. It happened to me.

What I realized in all these years, trying to quench my spiritual thirst and my desire to understand life on a deeper level, is that we need a mentor especially at the beginning but we do not need to assign our “enlightenment” to someone else thinking that only through them we become free. That is attachment and by hero-tizing someone else you are belittling yourself on some level. There is no savior, the disillusion to rely on a guru that can turn out to be just another man like you must be accepted. The teacher open up a door for you but you have to walk yourself through it, becoming a teacher yourself through some guide at the beginning for sure but then through your own practice, your deep contemplation, your study.

We need to have regression in our practice, to remain open instead of be closed in our believing. We need to move on our path, whatever it is, with a Zen Beginner’s Mind: a mind that knows that it doesn’t know everything at all

This brings you toward a total exposure, a place of full vulnerability at all the uncertainties and insecurities, and become at ease in that vulnerability.

So, the next time you see the Buddha on the road, be sure to kill him.

Sasy