Killing the Buddha.

Killing the Buddha.

“If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him.” When I first heard that assertion, I was frowned. How can someone who is on spiritual path, on a path that should push you to have an “inner growth”, suggests to kill someone else?

I took a moment of reflection for me to understand that the speaker was not referring to killing Lord Buddha but killing our conceptualization and belief, the idea we understand it all. This was the means of “Killing the Buddha”

We all face up moments in our journey where we need to seek advice from those further along the path. But within the teacher-student relationship can arise a point at which the student can idolize the teacher and forgoes his own growth that is the purpose of all spiritual practice. It happened to me.

What I realized in all these years, trying to quench my spiritual thirst and my desire to understand life on a deeper level, is that we need a mentor especially at the beginning but we do not need to assign our “enlightenment” to someone else thinking that only through them we become free. That is attachment and by hero-tizing someone else you are belittling yourself on some level. There is no savior, the disillusion to rely on a guru that can turn out to be just another man like you must be accepted. The teacher open up a door for you but you have to walk yourself through it, becoming a teacher yourself through some guide at the beginning for sure but then through your own practice, your deep contemplation, your study.

We need to have regression in our practice, to remain open instead of be closed in our believing. We need to move on our path, whatever it is, with a Zen Beginner’s Mind: a mind that knows that it doesn’t know everything at all

This brings you toward a total exposure, a place of full vulnerability at all the uncertainties and insecurities, and become at ease in that vulnerability.

So, the next time you see the Buddha on the road, be sure to kill him.

Sasy

Coregulation! What is that?

Coregulation! What is that?

Stephen Porges, PHD and leader in studying and treating trauma, collected neuroscientific and psychological constructs regarding the role of the vagus nerve in emotion regulation in what he called the Polivagal Theory. One of his affirmations, which I like the most, is: “If you want to improve the world, start by helping people feel safer.”

What a credo for First Responders.

As a front-liner can you recall a moment in your career when you felt truly supported? I have memory of very few moments where I felt very supported. That feeling was perceived by me anytime the helper had a settled nervous system, an empathetic approach to the situation. That was the reason why I felt safe. No matter what the person’s training was: a therapist or a higher rank than me, if they showed empathy I felt supported. What was perceived by me and made me feel safe was “the heart” he/she put into the interaction with me.

There is a name for this: coregulation. It is a warm interaction that provides support in a given moment. There is a beautiful explanation I found in an article from Khiron Trauma Clinic in UK that says “Coregulation lies at the heart of all human relationships. It is the reciprocal sending and receiving of signals of safety. It is not merely the absence of danger but connection between two nervous systems; each nourishing and regulating the other in the process. Because it is baked into our evolutionary past, it is not a desire, but a need – one developed to facilitate survival. As humans, we therefore are programmed to seek interpersonal connection: it is a biological imperative.”

Nowadays, there is an emphasis on resiliency and mastering our self. They talk about self- regulation, which is the act of managing thoughts and feelings, in a way they can enable goal-directed actions.

But it is necessary to have support in self-regulation as it develops and becomes efficient through interaction. Let’s call the helpers caregivers, for some can be parents, some coaches or therapist, some mentors, some their superior. That process of mutual reinforcement allows us not to stay in a defensive state. The established connection helps us to replace that defensive mode with patterns of protection.

And this is my point: we are always in a transition of some kind during our career and in our life. We often walk on some unfamiliar path, the unknown path that makes us feel groundless and disregulated. Because of that our nervous system is not completely settled. Fear and stress during work-shift can boost some old subconscious patterns as hope and anticipation can push us in a direction far away from the present moment and the reality of the facts. These are only some ways our nervous systems can become disorganized.

We need interactions, we need to establish warm, heartfull connections. A good police officer, firefighter, paramedic, and dispatcher needs to be in a state that doesn’t take on their counterpart’s distress and also preserve a space were the other can be at ease in; a place nourished with empathy, where the interaction is based on comprehension and co-regulation support.

It is the same for a good person. Let’s coregulate ourselves for a better world, to help people feel safer and to improve the world.

Sasy, F.R.Y. Director

www.FRYCanada.com

Free Yoga Class, lecture and workshop! Woohoooo! Guess you love it!

Free Yoga Class, lecture and workshop! Woohoooo! Guess you love it!

It seems today find a free yoga class is as easy as blinking your eyes. You never hesitate to accept something for free as it is very easy to say yes when you do not have to pay.
Offering something for free allows the teacher to reach a wider audience and if he is trying to establish his niche, offering some free classes is a really good try. Offering free classes or better donation-based class with a purpose or to celebrate a special event, is also something remarkable.
But there is a big drawback of the “free yoga” and that is true not only for yoga.
First, your teacher are not getting paid for what you offer. Is that the value you give to yourself?
Second, again from the teacher side, offering free class lowers even more the value of what you do, your studies, your knowledge, your teaching. People who get something for free cannot see the value of what you do and about who you are. Do you want people release good hormones in your class? Then that “I-accomplish hormone” called dopamine that is released when you face up challenges in your life and you do not run away from it but you stay with it,need to have a challenging stimulus that cannot be only physical. More, your sense of accomplishment as a teacher won’t be there too.
Third, from student side, if you get something without paying you do not have any stake in the final result: you will end up to follow instructions that you will store in an easy-to-forget drawer of your mind. You won’t follow the teaching carefully, you won’t learn anything that can be an experience from which you can get more insight and wisdom to use in your life.
Free yoga classes are like broken chain but you will always have the cuff around your wrist.
Sasy
You are special.

You are special.

Hello my dear.

It has been days I am talking to you. And today just as the other days I keep saying you were born for greatness, you are meant to live your life as a shining star.

You are so special as you are trying not to trudge through your life but shine within it and make a difference in this world just for the person you are, by sharing your love and your knowledge with humbleness.

I am talking to you as I want you not to forget you are special and I want to help you to kick out of your life the shadows, the judgments, the fears that keep following you all the way around the places you have been, all the way inside your heart. But your heart is pure, it is joy and it is fearless. That’s why I am talking to you

A great man said stay hungry, stay foolish and I am repeating these words to you: stay hungry, stay foolish and fly high as you are special. Yes, you are the hero you would always like to be, you are trying to make this world a better place to stay.

You are special, believe me as I never lie.

That is the voice of my beloved, a talk to myself.

Sasy

International Women’s Day.

International Women’s Day.

To celebrate the tremendous efforts by all the women around the world who participated and still today are participating for a more equal future

To all the women who every day are helping us to recover from the pandemic

To all the women that are giving their effective participation in many areas of our life to progress, to grow, be healthy and going beyond any genre.

To all our women First Responders and Front Liners who put their life at risk for our security, health and protection

At the last but not at the least to all moms, girlfriends, grandmothers, aunties, sisters who simply are the best part of our life.

Without you wouldn’t be any me.

I wish you all love, health and a smile on life.

Sasy supports you

Finally the new Star is born!

It is humble excitement I happily announce the launch of the “F.R.Y.™ First Responders’ Yoga. The Book”.
Are you a First Responder or Know One?
Find out how to decrease stress, find balance and prevent job-related injuries for Police, Firefighters, Paramedics and Dispatch and your management!
Discover functional movement, breathwork, meditation and other life altering tools adapted specifically for First Responders with “F.R.Y.™ First Responders’ Yoga. The Book”, a new first-of-its-kind in Canada, self-help method. Giving Back to Those Who Serve.
Click the link below and BUY “F.R.Y.™ First Responders’ Yoga.The Book”:
The F.R.Y.™ The Method for First Responders’ health, includes tools available via:
· F.R.Y.™ website,
· employer-sponsored intensive workshops,
· weekly live and recorded F.R.Y.™ The Method classes,
· the “F.R.Y.™ First Responders Yoga. The Book” (available on Amazon both digital and paperback version) and
· the upcoming F.R.Y.™ The App,
that results in readily accessible tools for injury prevention, mind-body balance, mental health and stress-reduction for First Responders.
Giving Back to Those Who Serve!
Sasy