The dreamer, the fixer and the controlling self

The dreamer, the fixer, and the controlling self

There is a story of a 5-year-old lady who one morning tells his father this:

“You know how when you are asleep and dreaming it seems so real, and then you wake up and realize it was just a dream? Well, when you are awake, can you wake up that much more and realize that this is just a dream?”

We all have this moment where we sense we are inside that kind of dream. This is the dreamer. He is the central character getting the script of the movie. The plot of the movie unfolds around unpleasantness to avoid and a problem to be fixed. The dreamer becomes the fixer and the name of the movie is “The I-self”.

When we are stressed, the movie star becomes the controlling self that is a harsh critic, judging and wanting things to be different. It is trying to achieve something most of the time not necessary: that extra gadget, a bigger house that has no sense, making impressions, making more money to buy “nothing” but wasting more time.

So the driving assumption of the dreamer, the fixer, and the controlling self, is that there is a problem to fix, something to achieve, something to change.

In our lives, there are many moments where we are in that dream where we are self-dealing with a problem, something that we perceive needs to be fixed, changed, or achieved.

We need to wake up from the dream.

This means touching our heart space and all the good qualities we have within that space to recognize we are beyond the controlling self, the dreamer, and the fixer

Beyond the one fearing that something is going to go wrong and wanting something to go differently, beyond the self who dreams about what is supposed to be better for it, and the over-controlling fixer who is constantly searching for a problem to fix, there is a space where peace, contentment, presence, and love dwell.

We should train ourselves to abide in that space.

Sasy